Language is a powerful thing. Although you may not know it, the words you use show others how you see the world.
In fact, some experts believe that we not only use language to talk about how we see our world, but also that language actually helps us make the world we live in.
How does this work?
Our subconscious mind loves consistency and so will try to interpret what it experiences in a way consistent with the words we use.
This powerful tool on the tips of our tongues not only affects us, but also affects people listening to us. So you can change the way someone else views the world by consciously choosing certain words to help their subconscious form a world view you desire.
Here’s how you do this.
Using language and words the right way, actually allows you to hypnotize someone you speak to. I don’t mean a complete hypnotic induction like you see in the movies, where someone lies on a couch. But rather, you can speak directly to their subconscious mind when you use the right words and tone of voice. This gives you the ability to influence people to view things the way you want them to.
In other words you can change the way people behave by saying the right things in the right way.
So what are the “right things to say?
Speaking to the subconscious mind is easier than you’d think. The world renowned hypnotist, Milton Erickson, pioneered a model for conversational hypnosis involving three stages:
Stage 1.
Look for signs that reveal how the person views something. Notice the language used. What words does she use to describe her feelings. After you spot the pattern, use her experiences to lead her attention to her own inner experiences.
You can accomplish this by asking questions such as “How was that for you?”, or “How does that make you feel?”
Its about focusing them inward so they can really understand how the way they see the world makes them feel.
Stage 2.
This second stage of the Milton conversational hypnosis model is to distract the listener’s conscious mind. This is done by using complicated and unclear language.
Erickson would chose words having the same sound, but with different meanings. Example words are sale-sail, wander-wonder, hear-here, right-write.
Milton deployed double binds to present only the set of options he desired. He’d say things like: We don’t know if you’ll begin a trance not or in 10 minutes.
This kind of language gives the mind no choice but to fall into a trance, and it uses an embedded command to do so now, or in 5 minutes.
When words are incorrectly used, it confuses and distracts the conscious mind. This causes the conscious mind to look inward, asking for help from the subconscious mine.
Well, that’s a couple Milton Model techniques of mind distraction. I really don’t know if you would want to learn a lot more about the Milton Model of conversational hypnosis now or later 
STAGE 3.
Finally, once the conscious mind has been sufficiently distracted, the final stage in the Milton Model is to uses the resources of the subconscious mind.
This can be done using a few methods. The most straightforward if by embedding subliminal commands into your sentences as you speak. Since they are subliminal, they will be transparent to the conscious mind, but heard clearly by the subconscious mind.
Here are some examples:
–I don’t know if you will do the dishes now –You can do this, can’t you? –You will do that, haven’t you? (Yes, this is intentional it makes no sense to your conscious mind, but it does make sense to your subconscious)
You may be wondering, if I just say some confusing sentences to other people and use embedded commands, can i get them to do what I want them to?
Well, my answer to that is maybe.
The critical point about conversational hypnosis is that someone will only go along with your commands if they don’t try to make her break her values and genuine beliefs.
You can definitely speak to someones subconscious mind using the Milton Model techniques, but it takes a lot more than a quick conversation to change someones values.
With practice, you will greatly improve your ability to use conversational hypnosis to subliminally influence people around you