Women are unpredictable beings, and even a thought about first date makes majority of men tremble either from agitation, or from fear of being unfit, or both. What line of behavior one should take? Being like a medieval chevalier, confident and benevolent master of his fiefdom, or like a man appreciating the liberties of modern society, who is treating his lady as an equal? Where is this thin line which divides goodness from awkwardness, attraction from repulsion? Here are seven useful tips, which I would like to share with you:
Tip 1: Prepare your plan of the date thoroughly. Place, time, program: all elements of your first date must be well thought. Moreover, make sure that aside from plan A, you have also plan B: just in case if she would not like something in A or, perhaps, because the meeting place will happen to be closed that day (of course, avoiding things like that is precisely the reason why I am giving you this tip). Use what you already know about her: if she is your online match, then you know her profile and you had enough chat with her to figure this out. For example, if you know that she is not a baseball fan, do not try to convince her that she is missing a great deal of fun in her life, do not take her to a stadium, take her to museum instead. Yes, museum of art would be in many cases the best setting for a first date. Beautiful objects of art, quietness and safety at the same time: what else will give you a better atmosphere for a first romantic meeting? Dont forget: she has never seen you before, so personal safety will be an issue for her (probably not the major one, but, still an issue). From the first meeting point you can move to another (cafe, restaurant, night club), but remember that the choice of the first spot is the most important one.
Tip 2: Do not be late. Psychologists say that opinion about a person is usually formed over the first 15 seconds of a meeting: you may not get even that much, if you will get late. If these 15 seconds (or even few minutes) of her time will be filled with waiting, well, you just do not want this to happen. Women hate when someone makes them wait: in this state their mind offers them a million of things which they could do with better outcome than just mere standing and waiting. The rest is just a matter how long she can stand this condition, usually not too long before she will take-off and leave. Then you will arrive and will be waiting for nothing to happen: you have to blame for that yourself!
Tip 3: Your external appearance must be more than just spotless. I am sure you know that without me, but just let me to emphasize this fact, which is never enough to emphasize: you must look great! You better look like you just stepped from a front cover of a fashion magazine (or, at least, try to approach this state as much as you can). After spending at least two hours before mirror she wants to find signs of a similar commitment in you. So do not disappoint her: your attire, your shoes, your fragrance, even the teeth in your smile, everything will be considered over those 15 seconds, which you must win!
Tip 4: Flowers and Flowers only! Rings of pearls (better saltwater), diamonds and everything made out of gold is what 98% of women want to get from you, but do not make this to happen on the first date. Just keep this in mind for the future. On the first date bring her one red rose (or, maybe a dozen, but not overdo it); so she will know that the man she just met has a great taste and is worth (hopefully) to be seen again.
Tip 5: Be kind. Do not afraid of being perceived as an old-fashioned gent. Opening doors before her, pooling chairs for her, letting her in first, and so on will not hurt you at all, just opposite. Even diehard feminist would like to be treated that way. Help her to take off her coat: you can hug her slightly and this will be a step in a right direction.
Tip 6. Give her as many compliments as possible. This is something that is expected from you, and you do not want to disappoint her. After introduction tell her how great she looks. Do not afraid of being banal: in this part your effort will be always appreciated. Besides, giving compliments is fun and a great field for your creativity, so do not be shy to explore it!
Tip 7. Listen more than talk. There is no doubt that she is curious about you and there is a plenty of things which she wants to find out. However, it is very likely that even more she wants to tell you about herself. So do not disappoint her, let her speak and help her. Simple nodding from your side will not be enough: keep saying briefly: Yes; Sure, How interesting; Is that right?, etc. Eventually there will be your turn to speak, find some way to return the ball to her field, and while it is still in your hands, by no means mention your past loves, problems at work or with your health and any religious issues. Find the topic of mutual interest and let her develop it. Your good sense of humor will be a big plus. And just keep in mind that you need to save a lot for talking at your next date with her, which will surely happen if you would follow these simple tips.