Does it ever feel like WORK meeting women?
And do you ever feel despite all your hard work you're not even closer to your goal?
If you agreed to those questions, then you may continue reading.
I'm not going to lie, the dating game can be quite frustrating.
You are interested in a woman that has a boyfriend.
You think everything is going great with a girl and she stops returning your calls.
Aside from the fact that as the guy you are the one that do everything in order to move things forward.
In your approach, you have to have the courage.
YOU have to keep the conversation going at first, YOU have to escalate physically, YOU have to get HER number or rack your brain to figure out a logistical way to take her home, YOU have to plan the date.
Not to mention there are much higher standards for men's behavior than women.
(Don't get me started on that...let's just think that girls are allowed to get away with sub-par behavior just because they are "pretty.")
That can be debilitating, especially if you don't have an "extroverted" trait.
... I have often heard a complain about "extroversion fatigue" from a client of mine.
I knew exactly what he meant because I used to struggle with it too.
Looking back I used to teach myself about pick-up, I would go out, talking to three or four women and then find myself mentally DRAINED.
What I do is to have a sit and rest!
Think about how strange that is. In a situation where you are supposed to be having fun and RELAX, I was instead working harder than I was at my full time job.
I would go home and be absolutely DEAD
... from TALKING TO WOMEN!
Does that make any sense???
And there was the overall, general dating fatigue. The emotional ups and downs, the discouraging results, the effort I had to make just to get women to hang out with me or to sleep with me.
I feel I am working overtime just like a full time job!
The first time I got into this game I had force myself to go out and pickup ALL DAY for days on end. (I was a nerd, I admit that, and had pushed it to the extreme.)
But what can I say, I was very eager to learn all this stuff (and not to mention extremely hungers for results after years of sensual frustration).
I would push myself like professional athletes push themselves in the gym.
I was forming NEW NEUROPATHWAYS and working on my muscles that I've never done before.
If you do understand any of this stuff, then probably you are working too hard in your interaction with women.